The Top Skills You Need to Work
with Non-Verbal Children
See also: Teaching Children Social Skills
Working with non-verbal children requires a special set of skills and talents. As a teacher, therapist or caregiver for non-verbal children, you must be patient, creative and intuitive to connect with and help children who do not communicate through speech.
There are various reasons why a child may be non-verbal. Some common causes include autism spectrum disorders, intellectual disabilities, selective mutism, childhood apraxia of speech, and traumatic brain injuries. Sensory processing disorders, hearing impairments, and cerebral palsy can also result in a lack of speech. In some cases, non-verbal children have normal cognition but have not developed speech skills. Environmental factors like neglect or lack of stimulation may play a role too.
Identifying the root cause helps providers give non-verbal children the best support and therapy to potentially improve communication over time.
Here are some of the top soft skills that are vital for succeeding when working with non-verbal kids.
Patience
If you are considering a speech language pathology career path, patience is arguably the most important skill when working with non-verbal children. Since these children do not communicate verbally, everything moves at a slower pace. Interactions, lessons and activities take more time when a child is non-verbal.
As a provider for non-verbal kids, you must have great patience in order to avoid becoming frustrated. Rushing a non-verbal child or pushing them too hard can lead to anxiety, resistance and lack of progress. Go at the child's pace, allow ample time for responses, and understand that things will not always move quickly. With extreme patience, you can gain the trust of non-verbal children and make steady progress.
Creativity
Without verbal skills, you must get creative in how you interact with and teach non-verbal children. Since traditional teaching methods rely heavily on verbal instruction, you have to think outside the box. Get inventive with visual aids, technology, gestures, demonstration and interactive activities.
Tap into your imagination to find unique ways to explain concepts, give directions and provide feedback without using words. Customize hands-on learning tools, visual schedules, communication boards and sensory integration activities. Flex your creative muscles to build engaging, effective lesson plans tailored to non-verbal learners.
Intuition and Observation
Careful, active observation is required to intuit what non-verbal children need and want. Since you do not have the benefit of verbal communication, you must rely on intuition by observing body language, facial expressions, behaviors and reactions.
Notice when a child seems frustrated, over-stimulated, distracted or disengaged. Tune into nonverbal cues that a child needs a break, a sensory integrative activity, redirection or praise. Sharpen your intuition through experience, deep engagement and listening without judgment.
Empathy
Put yourself in the shoes of a non-verbal child. Imagine how difficult and frustrating it must be to not have a verbal outlet. Have great empathy for the child's struggles. Convey through your body language, facial expressions and tone of voice that you care deeply and want to understand their world.
Building rapport and trust requires abandoning any preconceived notions or labels and simply connecting with the child as a human. Provide comfort and security by maintaining a patient, calm demeanor. Empathize with the child's viewpoint to gain cooperation and make authentic connections.
Encouragement
Since non-verbal children lack traditional communicative abilities, they require abundant encouragement to build confidence. Recognize and praise any attempts to communicate, whether through gestures, vocalizations, pictures or devices.
Celebrate small successes and milestones. Motivate with smiles, high-fives and other signals that say "Good job! You can do this!" Encourage children to keep trying when they are frustrated. Your ongoing encouragement is key for nurturing progress.
Team Collaboration
Work closely with parents, therapists, teachers and other providers to gain insights about effective approaches. Share observations and strategize. Ensure everyone uses consistent strategies and reinforcers.
Welcome feedback and be willing to try new methods suggested by other team members. Maintaining close collaboration will provide the best support for non-verbal children's growth and success.
Adaptability
Be willing to change course when something is not working with a non-verbal child. Since you do not get clear verbal feedback, you must gauge through body language and emotional cues when an approach is ineffective.
Do not stubbornly stick to a strategy or interaction that causes frustration. Adapt in the moment to find a better angle. Be flexible and responsive so you can figure out what resonates best with each unique child.
Listening Skills
Carefully listen to any verbalizations such as grunts, cries or altered vowels to discern meaning. Detect patterns and associate sounds with needs. For example, notice if a certain sound indicates hunger, discomfort or excitement. Listen without projecting or making assumptions.
Let the child know you are listening closely by maintaining eye contact and responding appropriately to cues. Your active listening demonstrates that the child's communication, however limited, is valued.
Self-Regulation
To work successfully with non-verbal children, you must be regulated yourself. Children pick up on your verbal and nonverbal cues. Remain calm and professional even when confronted with extremely challenging behaviors.
Monitor and control your own feelings of impatience, anxiety or frustration. Excuse yourself if you need to re-center. Model healthy self-regulation and your equilibrium will extend to the children.
Sensitivity
Children with nonverbal autism and other conditions often have sensory sensitivities. Notice when lighting seems too bright, sounds are too loud or touch causes discomfort. Help protect children from sensory overload.
Provide soothing objects and environments. Adapt sensitively to create the best conditions for the child to engage. Your sensitivity shows the child you respect their needs.
Hope and Optimism
When working with non-verbal children, maintain a hopeful mindset. Focus on possibilities rather than limitations. Believe in the child's potential and convey your optimism through positivity and encouragement.
Children absorb the attitudes of those around them. When you remain upbeat, motivated and future-focused, it instills confidence, resilience and continual progress for non-verbal kids.
In Conclusion
Patience, empathy, creativity and strong observation abilities are just some of the soft skills required for working successfully with non-verbal children. Listen closely, collaborate fully and keep trying new approaches. But most importantly, build trust by conveying sensitivity, optimism and faith in the child's inner strengths and capabilities. With dedication and the right skill set, you can help non-verbal children thrive.
About the Author
Sally Giles ran her own successful importing business for many years. She's now living the dream as a freelance writer, walking her dogs through the forest most days.
