Steps to Turn Life Lessons
into a Compelling Book

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Life lessons can make for a compelling book. To be fair, just about anything can be a life lesson, but successful authors will find themselves elaborating on their choices and how those choices or situations impacted them over the long run. We’ll discuss a few ways that you can turn life lessons into a good book that others will want to read and buy.

Writing about your life lessons is indeed a process that some authors will enjoy, as they explore the possibility of getting paid to discuss some of their life story.

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Decide on a Life Lesson

The first thing you’ll want to do is chart out or thoroughly consider how your life lessons actually impacted your life and how they can impact the lives of others. The process of exploring past triumphs or tragedies may sound easy to some, but for others, remembering minute details of what happened may be difficult. Through the process of documenting and remembering all of the things that came together to make your life lesson, you’ll want to put together a strong outline that shows you feel the life lesson was actually completed.

Writing all of this down, even on just a page or two, can be great to guide you through the process of explaining your life lessons to someone else.

At this point, you don’t need to write it all out. There will be many gaps to fill and thoughts to share later without worrying about carefully crafting anything but your broad vision for what you want to say.

Remember the Details

Knowing lots of details about what happened in your life lessons will be helpful in making your book more interesting and allow the reader to connect more with your mindset. Whether your life lesson, or lessons, are positive or negative, traumatic or hopeful, you will need to explore your thoughts through those scenarios and include the details you want to be shared.

This can be difficult for some people. Especially those who went through a negative event that they don’t particularly want to explore in much depth. Understanding, reliving, and exploring your problems opens a path to healing from violent or vulnerable situations.

On the other hand, if you re-write about positive life lessons and things you did right, you should feel good about reliving how you navigated everything from decisions to social networks. It’s possible that in either a good or bad scenario, you might want to talk about every secret you have! Readers will find your choice of facts interesting in knowing how you become who you are today.

In the Moment

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Much of the reason to remember details is to recreate a moment that will resonate with the reader. You’ll want to build the scene unless you want your book to be very straightforward. Still, writing about small details will help the reader picture their interpretation of what happened within their own head, which is a solid foundation to write a nonfiction book. An emotionally involved reader will stay with you through the end, leaving them wanting more.

Practically speaking, this is where your book will begin to jump off the page, so put time into describing crucial moments in detail!

Focus on Emotions

You’ll want to discuss your emotions thoroughly and completely. Many readers will want to know about your emotions, and part of the reason for reading the book is to develop an emotional connection. Your life lessons come in second place here. While you will want to describe your life lessons, the emotions leading into your life lessons are more important in keeping the reader entertained and involved. A fact-by-fact recounting would be rather boring to most readers unless they literally want a guide to navigate a situation without many feelings.

There is also where piecing together your story early comes in handy. Once you get past many of the facts and feelings that lead to a situation, you can really dive in and explain what was going on in your head and your heart.

Journaling can help here too. Write down your thoughts and feelings about what happened within your life lesson so you can thoroughly explore exactly what you felt and why during your process. Simply writing down feelings is also a great way to understand how you actually felt!

Find the Right Genre Publisher

You can attempt to find a publisher or self-publisher before doing much of the word, so this could be out of order. A life lesson can be just about anything, from overcoming issues like drug addiction or depression to escaping a war. Regardless of what your life lesson entails, you’ll want to find a publisher that wants to sell that story.

Finding a good publisher has the potential to be rather challenging, but developing your idea a bit and summarizing it for a publisher can go a long way to giving you a better idea of how to introduce your topic.

There are many general publishers out there who will take different kinds of stories, one of your challenges might be that there are other stores like yours, and you’ll need to dig deep on details and memories so that something unique takes shape.

Specific publishers also exist out there. Some might be interested in faith-based transformations, and others are looking for stories about how people went from being homeless to being successful. Thankfully, there are lots of readers out there waiting to see your story, so we encourage you to get started on writing so that you have something to show.


Writing about yourself can be a challenge, but with a good outline of what you want to discuss, you can achieve an organized approach to creating a book others will want to read. Be sure to find a relatable story, real facts, and, most importantly, real emotions! We hope you are able to connect with a publisher so that others are able to read your story and learn something about themselves from you.

About the Author

Benjamin Stewart: I've been a content writer for about three years, covering a wide range of topics from AI to book writing. I have a background in history, journalism, and marketing. I love to read and write!