10 Ways to Develop Your Soft Skills
and Make an Amazing First Impression
Are you looking to make a great first impression? Want to learn how to develop your soft skills? If so, you're in luck! In this article, we will discuss ten ways that you can improve your soft skills and make a killer first impression.
Soft skills are essential for success in any field. They are the skills that allow you to interact with other people effectively. So, if you want to get ahead in life, it's important to hone your charisma.
Your first impression starts from across the room. You want to be memorable for all the right reasons, so it's important to develop your social skills. That is exactly what Jaunty, the gym for your social life, has been helping people do for over 12 years so listen up and embed these ten tips into your social skills toolbelt!
Tip #01: Make sure you are always well-groomed and presentable.
Making a good first impression starts with your appearance. You want to make sure that you are always well-groomed and presentable. This means showers, clean clothes, combed hair, and don’t forget about smell!
First impressions are often based on personal appearance, so it's important to take care of your appearance if you want to make a good one. Get well-fitted clothes, standout shoes, and if tolerable find a cologne, perfume, or other skin product that makes you smell good.
Pro tip: Wear one subtle unique accessory that may invite comments and questions. And have a story behind it. This can be earrings, a bracelet, or a watch.
Tip #02: Open and confident body language.
Your body language speaks volumes. The social skill tip that has the most profound effect for our clients is to SLOW EVERYTHING DOWN!
When you are meeting someone new, make sure to have open, slower moving, and confident body language. This means making eye contact, having an open posture, and taking pauses. Don’t be scared of pauses! Avoid crossing your arms or legs, as this can make you appear closed off.
A genuine smile is one of the best ways to make people comfortable. Smiling makes you seem friendly and approachable. It also conveys confidence. So, when you meet someone new, make sure to smile at them.
Pro tip: Don’t forget your voice! Having a confident voice means speaking up and being heard. Avoid mumbling, speaking too quickly, or speaking too quietly. Instead, speak with a clear voice that projects conviction. This will make you come across as more credible and trustworthy.
Tip #03: Be playful.
There's nothing like a good joke to break the ice and get the conversation flowing. Humor is a great way to make a first impression because it shows that you're confident, easy-going, and up for a good time.
Of course, not everyone is naturally funny. That's why it's important to learn about different types of humor and find the ones that work best for you. Sarcasm, character play, puns, and wit are all great ways to make people laugh. Humor is learnable!
A great way to start practicing is to think of exaggerating opposites. For instance, you can comment on a tiny dog being too ferocious, or if it's rainy outside you can suggest a group picnic at the park.
So next time you're looking to make a good first impression, don't be afraid to be a little funny. It might just be the thing that sets you apart from the rest.
Tip #04: Make eye contact.
Yes, this is technically body language but warrants its own category. When you are talking to someone, it's important to make good eye contact. This shows that you are interested in the conversation and that you are listening carefully. Avoiding eye contact can make you seem disinterested or distracted.
Ways to practice eye contact are by talking to people more often and making a point to really listen when they are speaking. Another way to practice is by looking people in the eye when you are out in public.
Make eye contact with cashiers, waiters, or anyone else you come into contact with throughout your day. The more you practice, the easier it will become.
Tip #05: Be a good listener.
To make a good impression, you need to be a good listener. This means paying attention to what the other person is saying and responding appropriately. Good listening skills show that you are interested in the conversation and that you respect the other person.
Try to make sure to give them 110% of your attention when they are speaking. It's rare these days and has an intoxicating effect.
Pro-tip: Reinterpret something important they said back to them in your own words. This way you remember it as well as signal to them that you are listening.
Tip #06: Avoid interrupting.
Interrupting someone is rude and shows that you are not interested in what they have to say. It can also make you seem arrogant or pushy. If you want to make a good impression, it's important to let the other person finish their thoughts before speaking.
This connects well with slowing down and being a good listener. Remember to have patience with your opinions and "me too's."
Tip #07: Ask questions.
Asking questions shows that you are interested in the conversation and that you want to learn more about the other person. It's a great way to make a good impression and get to know someone better. This breaks up talking about yourself too much.
In Jaunty classes, we learn when to ask open-ended and closed-ended questions. Using these differences can make a big difference. Use open ended questions like, “what is it about Florida that made you want to move there?” Also, a good ol’, “Tell me more about that!” will work wonders.
Tip #08: Tell stories.
Stories are a great way to connect with other people and make a good impression. When you tell a story, it shows that you are articulate, interesting, and confident. It also allows the other person to get to know you better because it opens you up. More importantly, it leads the way to allow the other person to open up themselves.
When telling stories, make sure they are appropriate for the situation and audience. Avoid stories that are too personal or too long when meeting someone new.
You can learn and practice storytelling by reading books, watching movies, or taking a class. Jaunty students learn how to detail stories and use formulas that enhance your story. It’s very learnable.
Tip #09: Be positive.
Positivity is contagious and can make a good impression on other people. When you are positive, it shows that you are happy, confident, and optimistic. This can make other people want to be around you and make them feel good as well.
Some ways to practice being more positive are by smiling more, listening to positive music, and trying to find the good in every situation. This doesn't mean that you have to be fake or phony. Just try to focus on the good things in life and avoid complaining too much. Many people complain and talk about negative current events.
Be more magnetic by bringing them into your world where things are exciting and fun. It will make you more memorable.
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Tip #10: Be useful!
One of the best ways to make a good impression is to be useful. If you can help out or do something for someone, or make them laugh they will appreciate it and remember you. This could be as simple as holding the door open for someone or offering to help them with their groceries or breaking the ice with a funny comment.
You can also be useful by sharing your knowledge or skills with others. If you know how to do something that they don't, offer to teach them. This could be anything from cooking a meal to fixing a computer. Sharing your skills shows that you are generous and willing to help others.
Introducing them to someone or inviting them to an event are also great ways to be useful and make a good impression.
Follow these tips and you're sure to make a great first impression! Soft skills are essential for success in any area of life. So, start working on yours today. Soon, you'll be making amazing first impressions and impressing everyone you meet!
About the Author
This article was written by Eric Waisman, founder of Jaunty.org - The gym for your social life. Eric has been studying social dynamics for 15 years. Jaunty provides real-life social skills training so you can make friends, build relationships, and have a more fulfilling social life. If you're looking to improve your social skills, please check out Jaunty.org!